THE PRACTICE

Trauma Informed Relationship Therapy & Pastoral Care, for individuals and couples via Emotional Regulation, EMDR, Polyvagal Therapy and Transactional Analyse: From your attachment blueprint to current personality adaptations.

Rachamim is a private psychotherapie practice for women over the age of 18. Rachamim operates under the loving principles of the Christian faith. TA is of course also applicable to all belief systems. Rachamim was founded for women who are struggling with themselves, unhealthy relationships, or with communication and who want to bring about change by working on their half of the interactions! TA is mainly about increasing awareness; gaining insight into both our strengths and also into the defences we use. The constant question in TA is "what is it that I do that ensures that the other person keeps....?"

By combining mind, heart and feelings, I work with the help of TA and embodied psychotherapy exercises to bring people in contact with their strengths and outdated, self-limiting defence mechanisms. With this awareness we can go onto promote emotional intelligence, and work on emotional regulation. With the use of TA, I can support clients to develop their capacity to deal better with specific psychological challenges and help them grow towards who and how they want to really be. An appointment with Lesley is:
Enjoyable, Interactive, Respectful, Curious and Playful, Openhearted, and Intimate

Do you want to experience the transition from coming out of Survival Mode to being Alive and Thriving yourself? Book a free initial appointment.

RECOMMENDATIONS

"I have experienced it as very positive. Lesley was very calm and loving and patient."

TA is a good way to gain insight into your personality and how you came to make your own choices. Under Lesley's pleasant, committed guidance, you will build up insights to work slowly but surely towards changes in those choices and thus become and stay truer to yourself. Lesley's loving way of working respects your self value, so that security is ensured during the treatment sessions. But even after that, Lesley will remember to send tips and podcasts, so that you can carry on following your chosen path. Recommended!
I.V.

After ending a marriage with a narcissistic person, I was in a deep valley; I was somewhere outside the world; and could no longer connect with (their distorted and imposed) reality. I was struggling with pain and I thought it would never end. I came across Lesley and I started a trajectory to get out of the dip. Lesley believed in my change process, she welcomed me with warmth. Lesley brought me back to consciousness and explained everything clearly with a lot of patience. She repeated the facts and truth until I could finally understand. Lesley can sense really well and knows how to adapt her communication method. Recovering from the trauma is a process that can take a long time. I am glad I did the hardest first steps together with Lesley. That was a good foundation for further recovery and development. Thank you Lesley for your support and love and skillful approach to my "disturbed life", now I can move on with more confidence.
M.P.
I have experienced it as very positive. Lesley was very calm and loving and patient. It certainly helped me with everything I came for.
R.W.

I have been helped with the things I get stuck on. I experienced the atmosphere during the conversation with Lesley as safe and relaxed".
J.V.

My experience with Lesley by the very first appointment and the impression I got from our meeting was a loving reception, the space to be yourself and a good beginning for what lies ahead for me. Jeremiah 29-11
L.B.

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PRICES

Making Acquaintance

Making Acquaintance: We start with a no-obligation one-hour appointment or call. Before this, upon receipt of your email, I will send you a questionnaire to complete in advance, so that you can present with a clear help request. During this initial appointment, I can examine which approach will best work for you and I can make a rough estimate of the number of 90 minute sessions that we will need. That varies from a minimal of six to ten sessions. When we decide to work together, we then make an appointment for our first paid session. During each session we make a contract, which is frequently revised. If we decide not to work together in the first hour, we take leave of each other and no costs are incured.


Send an email to connect@originelebedoeling.nl request if you:

  • Find it difficult to set your boundaries
  • Continue to suffer from the adverse events from the past
  • Are always looking after others and neglecting your own needs
  • Do not dare to bond with someone else
  • Have developed despair in relationships as a result of emotional and psychological abuse
  • Are a child of or ex-partner of a Narcissistic personality
  • Find it difficult to connect with your feelings
  • Feel uncomfortable with other people because you are afraid that they will not like you, or feel inferior
  • Want to write a new storyline for your life
  • Experience that thinking, acting and feeling have become out of touch with each other
  • Have never been able to develop the “dance” of mutually reciprocal relationships
  • What you have dtreid and done so far, is proving ineffective!

Rates:

€ 130 per 90 minutes or € 90 per hour. Discount on pre-paid trajectories: € 750 for 6x 90-minute sessions, or € 1200 for 10x 90-minute sessions


The best way to predict the future is to create it yourself!

MEET LESLEY

Lesley is of English origin and has a background in nursing and working with families in need. Strengthened through her Christian faith, Lesley has developed strong passions for women, empowerment, health, freedom and connection, reconciliation, autonomy, and inner healing. Through the successfully completed three year TA study in Personality Theory, these subjects were brought together and combined with the necessary 1 year course in mental health. “For years I saw marriages and ministries break down due to personality problems. Due to a lack of social, emotional and communication skills and due to a lack of self awareness. In addition, I consistently encountered capable, loving and committed women in unhappy relationships where an ‘unhealthy symbiosis’ had developed. Now I recognise this as co-dependence and in TA language, the driver ‘Please (others)’ that has become out of balance. Most likely reinforced by a high sensitive personality type, who learnt very young to adapt to others, the Christian doctrine and an empathetic disposition. I too, am a highly sensitive person and from childhood I desired to understand people and their drivers. I grew up in a nest of stress and emotional neglect and have therefore been prone to emotional abuse. I have a good intuition, am insightful and am very good at analysing”.

Lesley’s Characteristics:

Empathetic, Authentic, Accepting Approachable, Responsive, Committed Not judgmental and yet dares, with permission, to enter into a confrontation

Specialisms:

  • Personality Analysis
  • Unhealthy Symbiosis
  • Co-Dependency
  • Narcissistic Personality Syndrome Victim Support
  • SIBAMO method for trauma processing
  • Inner healing of early Trauma
  • Promoting Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
  • Emotion Regulation
  • Underlying Attachment Issues
  • Loving Boundaries
  • Improving Communication Skills, Connection and Relationships
  • Spiritual Freedom
  • Connection: within yourself and with others